Try .. Test .. Adapt
Do unto others as you do unto you … A very old saying isn’t it? .. One of our very own which we use to pass on to others .. One of the thousands of ingredients from our intellectual cart which we rarely use .. But frequently pass on to others …
Well did it ever happen to you that someone approaches you for an advice to his or her problem … You were all ears and after listening 
to the problem you were like “OMG … Such a trivial thing and you are ruffled by it?? Unbelievable” … And then you become all philosophical, give out real life examples, inspire the other person to be brave, take it to be destiny, stop thinking about what has happened as it can’t be changed and blah-blah-blah … And a few days later you are hit by the same problem and all your preachings, all your philosophy, all your practicality and all your rationality goes to drains and you find yourself caught in an undertow, transfixed and helpless … The same question to which you had thousands of solutions a week back appears to be impossible to solve now …
Then why do we do it? … Why do we try to console someone even when we know that being there, we would have done the same … Why do we say but never realize that after all “it’s easier said than done” …
When I gave it another thought I found quite a few explanations to this irrational human behavior … May be when we approach someone for help, that’s not one of our primary concerns … We are not exactly looking for a piece of help or advice … All distressed and gloomy, solitude appears to profound the effect and hence all that we need at that particular point of time is to be heard, to have someone to empathize with you, to realize that there is someone who is by your side even during the darkest of times…
And there is no perfect solution to any of the problem … It’s all about how you respond when you know that this is a question which will continue to haunt you until solved, and there is no way to solve it … We try something … We test something … And then finally we adapt … And this happens to be the solution most of the times … All the other things that you get as an advice are just a few drugs which help you survive until you are out of it … You never want to solve it on your own … But ultimately you have to … No one can give you an ultimate cure … The onus is always, and always on you ….
very well written sir, it seems like you are feeling the nuances of life…. 🙂
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I understand .. needless to say everyone will be under that situation .. But had it never happened to you that you know the solution yourself but then when someone explains you in a better way .. you realize and think about it?? It does.. Well, for me it did! When friends confide something .. the latter does not switch into “I am the philosopher” mode jus because they have confided. It’s jus that we also have been through those situations, and we can’t see our dearest to be sad and dull.. It’s because their pain starts becoming your pain.. And to ease them up we do certain things.. while one turn serious and start explaining things which they are already aware.. the others crack a joke and try to lighten things…
Life do turn you into a philosopher … and you are a testimony to this fact 😛 😉 …
You’re right on that, Harsh 🙂
Life does turn you into a philosopher……….sooner or later…… 🙄
So, is this post a part of your philosophy?? 😉
Obviously Yes … At times the philosopher within me wakes up .. and hence such posts happen 😉 😀